Featured Coaching Excerpt - Notes & Transcript, Part 1
Lesson Nugget: A powerless person only reacts to what happens to them, and blames others for their circumstances.
Lesson Nugget: A powerful person is someone who knows the decisions that they make today will create the tomorrow they will live in.
Notable Quotable: "Luck is preparation meeting opportunity. If you hadn't been prepared when the opportunity came along, you wouldn't have been lucky," - Oprah Winfrey
Notable Quotable : "The harder I work, the luckier I get." - Thomas Jefferson
Lesson Nugget: You will be motivated by your vision or the pain you are trying to avoid.
Recommended Reading: Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals - Tom Corley
Ask Yourself: Who can benefit from the effects of my life if I live it well?
-Danny, thank you for being here, my friend.
-Hey, we have Thrivers all over the planet who click the little Ask The Mentor button. And a couple of the questions-- we're kind of starting to see these come in that are kind of in your wheelhouse, I think, because you talk a lot about being a powerful versus being a powerless person, what it means to be a powerful person versus a powerless person.
And we have a couple of Thrivers who've been reaching out wanting to know how they can be a more powerful person or a person who's going to take control of their own life. Talk to me about the difference between being a powerless person and a powerful person, how somebody can actually take control of their life?
-A powerless person is somebody that believes that life's happening to them, and they're just surviving it. They're just doing whatever they can to get through, because all these random things are happening. And, I didn't know this was going to happen. I didn't know that was going to happen. I didn't know you were going to say that and then ruin my whole day. I didn't know--
So, you know, I'm blaming my life, I'm reacting to the environment as it happens to me. A powerful person is a person who understands that other people don't control me. I control myself, so I'm moving myself in my decisions and in my vision.
In my goals, I'm moving myself towards where I want to be. The decisions that I'm making today I know are creating the tomorrow that I'm going to live in. So I've begun to realise that the quality of my life is directly connected to the choices I make. And so I choose to manage myself towards things instead of trying to survive the things that are coming at me.
-You know, Oprah has written that luck is preparation meeting opportunity. There's all sorts of quotes that are of a similar mindset. Thomas Jefferson talks about he believes in luck and the harder he works the more luck he has.
You look at all these people who are successful, and we see them run to the finish line. You see them on the cover of the magazine winning the award. But a lot of people don't know that Oprah was abused. Thomas Edison had 10,000 some odd failed experiments of the light bulb. Walt Disney lost it all twice. Henry Ford lost it five times.
It seems like show me someone who's successful, and I'm going to show you somebody who has gone through a lot of adversity. What advice would you have for somebody who's like, Oh, I want to be powerful, but I'm running into a lot of adversity. I'm on my 10,000th failed experiment of my light bulb. What advice would you have for somebody like that?
-You're one experiment away, is what I would say. Yeah, it's about the vision. It's about what it is that I've set my face to accomplish in my life.
And if I'm unclear about that or I'm not committed to that, then I don't really have much motivation or reason to take responsibility for my choices. Back to a point we made earlier where people decide about motivators in life either based on the vision that's set before them or the pain that they're trying to avoid.
-And your vision is what's going to give you the motivation needed to push through the pain?
-Yeah, like if my vision is to be an Olympic gold medalist, you don't have to tell me how to eat. I am eating to fuel this machine called my body to accomplish that goal. And so I am sacrificing, and I am selecting out and selecting in what will help propel me towards that gold medal. So it's the vision that is driving me, and the sacrifice, the pain, the physical working, mental working, learning, everything I'm doing is moving me towards that gold medal.
-Final question, because I think this might really close the loop for the Thrivers who are wanting to know this. What is the process you need to go through to cast a vision for your life? You know, cause all sorts of research shows that most people have no specific goal.
Now all sorts of research shows that-- Dave Ramsey did a study on this. It's on his website. There's a book called, TheHabitsoftheRich, by Tom Corley, and it shows that well over 80% of millionaires know where they're going. They have a very specific goal or a vision as you call it.
If I'm watching this and I do not have a discernible vision at this point in my life, regardless of age, what's the exercise? What do I need to do to find that vision?
-Well, I think there's numerous tools out there, and I would just go get one of them, you know, because there's books written about this. And so to say, well, you know, here's the three easy steps to getting a vision, I'm not really sure what that would be. But I do know that you're going to have to be able to describe what you're aiming your life at.
Who are you going to serve with your life? Who's going to benefit from the effects of your life lived well? Who would that be? You're going to have to define the service of your life.
What are you going to bring? You know, what is it that you are going to do? What do you need to learn? What do you need to master? What is it that you need to hone as a skill?
And then I think you have to define maybe the action or the verbs like dynamic or affective or how would you describe the activity of your life?
-I just want you to know a little anecdotal example here. Being around you and other mentors that know your vision for your life, it's inspiring, because you have a crystal clear focus, and that allows you to push through the pain. But it also allows you to seem like to set the boundaries.
It allows you to know what you're about, what you're not about, where to be, where not to be, make clear choices. I mean you strike me as a person who has a purpose, and you know where you're headed.
-Well, thank you so much for answering that question and bringing some clarity to the subject my friend.