Featured Coaching Excerpt - Notes & Transcript, Part 1
Lesson Nugget: You only have so much room in your boat, only carry what you can handle.
Notable Quotable: "Don't stop 'til you get enough."- Michael Jackson
Ask Yourself: Am I part of the problem, or part of the solution?
B.O.O.M.: Big Overwhelming Optimistic Momentum
Notable Quotable: "You never know what can be that impetus to inspire you to the next level."- Damario Solomon-Simmons
[MUSIC PLAYING] university of phoenix for purpose and business mentors
-If I feel like, if I really am reaching out to abusiness mentor though, kind of going back to the mentor, if I'm reaching out to a mentor, and they're too busy, it's probably because they have the ability to say no.
-Right. Because they have, gosh, I remember Clifton Taulbert told me this. And he wouldn't mind me saying this. Clifton said, he goes, Mr. Clark? I said, yes. I want to make sure that your dream doesn't become my dream, because I have a wife and a son who need me as much as you need me. But they're my only son and wife and I have to choose to be with them or you right now. And so I'm going to help you, but I can't get in that boat and row with you right now, because I've got to row my own boat.
-And I just thought that was a profound statement.
-Because he said it with kindness.
-But it hurt.
-And I guess what I'm saying is, if you're trying to reach out to abuisnessmentor, and they're too busy, we shouldn't be offended really.
-Because it's probably ran into somebody who's just trying to balance their own life, right?
-Right. And if you're going to allow that one time that someone's busy to stop you from either trying to continue that relationship with that person, and then you didn't really want it. Because you've got to understand that it may not happen the first time. It may not happen the second time. But you may call him a third time.
In fact, I have a story of Mr. Taulbert, Clifton Taulbert, that I think I experienced just that. I called him one time and wanted to meet with him. And we set up a meeting. He called me back. He said, you know what, I double booked. And the other meeting I have to go to. But you're welcome to go to it, and you can ride with me, and we can talk on the way there, and we can talk on the way back. And it wasn't a meeting.
-So you're thinking, OK, I'm going to a meeting with Clifton Taulbert.
-I think I'm going to a meeting with Clifton Taulbert.
-Oh, that's great.
-We're actually going to a funeral of a board, of a [INAUDIBLE]. And I say, you know, I'm going to do this, because I wanted to, I needed to talk to him. I wanted to have that experience. I told my wife, I said, I'm about to go to a funeral of somebody I never met before.
And it was actually, and this sounds funny, was actually one of the most powerful experiences. Because not only do I get to spend that time with Mr. Taulbert, I mean, real in-the-car time, at the funeral, I got to learn about the lady whose funeral. She was awesome. She was unbelievable. So I guess my point there is you never know what can be the impetus to inspire you to the next level.
The things I learned about that lady, I won't say her name, inspires me. That's why I'm even giving that story. And after the fact that I had to spend time with Clifton Taulbert, I had to go through that hurdle to spend time with him, because I wanted to be around him.
-I know that getting a hold of George Foreman, I won't get into the whole story, but my wife and I, we wanted to see him. And it's the same sort of thing. Getting there to see him was difficult. The founder of Hobby Lobby, when we met him, it was difficult.
-So I guess my advice for someone trying to find a mentor would be reach out to multiple mentors and then don't stop until you meet them.
-I mean, that's kind of the idea. Don't stop until you.
-Now in closing, I want to ask you this. Because as we're talking about, really, this concept today of how to develop a success philosophy to get me from here to there, is there any underlying mantra or success phrase that you say? I'm always saying BOOM, Big Overwhelming Optimistic Momentum. Is there something that you're always saying? Are you always telling yourself, man, this is my little phrase? You have something like that?
-Yeah. I mean, I love this quote from "MalcolmX." It's either you're part of the problem or you're part of the solution, period. So either I'm creating solutions or I'm adding to the problem. And I don't want to add to problems.
I feel like my goal and my mission in life is to create solutions, may that be legal solutions for my clients, be it solutions dealing with trying to get more young, black men to graduate from high school, be it solutions to get more athletes to not be broke after three and four years in the NFL and going bankrupt. So either I'm part of the solution or I'm part of the problem.
-I feel like, in my spirit of networking, you Mr. Robinson should connect, because that guy's done so well off the court, it's amazing. I want to tell you, again, just thank you for your time here. And I know that there's so many opportunities that you can't say yes to because you did choose to be here. And I know your time is your most important asset. And I appreciate you being here and devoting this precious time in your life with us here. So thank you so much.
-Clay, thanks for having me. I look forward to the next time. Thanks.