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-Daniel McKenna here. And today we are here with Caleb Taylor and Clay Clark who will be talking aboutin this business education training, Decide to Thrive at Work-- Your Time is Now. Learn how to motivate yourself and get the most out of every single day. We can all benefit from being more effective. So let's get right into it.
-Clay Clark, how are you, my friend?
-Man, I am doing great. I honestly am super excited to talk about today's topic because I just feel like a lot of people feel stuck. And I'm excited to help people get unstuck, my friend.
-I agree. I'm excited too. And I honestly do love sitting down with you because I feel like for thrivers watching, you are somebody that didn't inherit a bunch of money. You didn't get handed a business. You kind of grew up where you had the earrings and the--
-The whole Eminem phase.
- --the hood mentality.
-Yeah, nothing wrong with-- the hood could be good.
-I didn't make any money that way, but that could be your deal.
-But some of what you do now, you still hide some of that rebellion each day. You have your own-- can you just tell the thrivers right now-- he wears a jersey, actually, underneath his suit--
-Right now I'm wearing--
- --every day.
-It's a Dream Team. This is Dream Team two. I got a David Robinson jersey on right now. Boom.
-So that's real. Every day this is his silent rebellion against the man. It's the basketball jersey. I love that, though. But today, we're talking about deciding to thrive at work. Your time is now. So in general, what's interesting to me is people have dreams and goals that they want to achieve but they're not willing to start right now. And it's easy for all of us-- I'm so guilty of this. I don't know if you have been guilty of this as well-- but to make excuses, to say, I definitely want to be successful, but right now I just can't quite.
-Well, I remember my first time I caught myself doing that is I said, I want to start a business after college. Then, I want to start-- I want to get married after I graduate from college. After I get married, then I guess I'll go back then and start a business. I don't want to start a business while I'm in college. I don't want to start a business while I'm getting married. I want to do it after. Well, what happened in my life is my best friend got killed in a car accident. I got kicked out of college. And just all hell broke loose at the same time.
-How old were you at this time?
-Like 19 years old.
-OK, so 19 years old--
- --you lose your best friend. You get kicked out of college. And you realize now's the time to thrive.
-A lot of times I meet entrepreneurs all around the world, and I meet business owners and business mentors and I'm like, when did you decide to start having success? And it's always some major life event that has caused them to have no other option and they just have to make it work. It's amazing, but there's studies out there that will show that people that have kids tend to get more focused at their job because now you have someone else dependent on you. And so my call to action today is I just encourage you strongly to have a sense of urgency and realize that your life does matter and every day is a gift. And you just want to revere that, and you want to honor it, and you want to just have the most success you can because if you've got air in your lungs and you're above ground, you've won life's lottery. You are here for a reason.
-And what I love is Thrive is set up in such a way where you can watch and emulate these mentors who have achieved extreme levels of success in their own life. And what's interesting is if you have goals where you're wanting to accumulate wealth, you've got to copy and mimic what these mentors do and other wealthy people. And "Entrepreneur Magazine" actually did a study of wealthy people and their habits, and poor people and their habits. And a lot of people, again, say they want to be wealthy, but aren't willing to do what wealthy people do.
-This is getting real.
-This is kind of offensive.
-This is real talk. I'm sorry. This is, though, a quote here from this article in "Entrepreneur Magazine" when comparing some of the habits of poor people and wealthy people. It says, "over 75% of poor people watch reality TV as opposed to less than 5% of wealthy people who watch reality TV." Coincidence?
-Is that a coincidence?
-Now, I will say this. I have met very successful people who watch reality TV. However, they already have the success, so if you're trying to get the success-- I know I went through a dark period in my life where I don't think I watched TV at all for a long time because I just didn't have time. It's like, am I gonna-- I had to go to work, I had to work at my night job. I had to make calls. I had to drop stuff off. I had to go to the dry cleaner. I had so much stuff going on, I had to take things out of my life to put things in. So unfortunately, the reality TV-- I wasn't able to watch
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-Well, another thing that's interesting too is that wealthy people have this understanding of how impactful habits are. And they're very careful about the habits that they form. And according to, again, "Entrepreneur" magazine-- the same study of wealthy people and poor people-- 84% of wealthy people believe that good habits create opportunity but only 4% of poor people would believe the same thing to be true.
-Yeah, life isn't what happens to you. It's what you do to make life happen. And so--
CALEB TAYLOR: Wait say, look-- say that again.
-Life is not what happens to you. It's what you decide to make happen. And so I know that growing Thrive-- or I guess, a better example would be when I was starting my first business. I had no customers.
And customers did not want to hire me because they didn't know I existed. And I didn't have a marketing budget big enough to go out there and mass market. So I had to call them. And I had to cold call them, which is something I didn't want to do. But if I didn't make that difficult choice to do that, I would have never gotten a hit.
-Well, and what's interesting is, it's going to be hard to take action. Or it's going to be hard to build a habit without first taking action. And if you're always putting it off or making excuses because of what's happening in life. You always talk about it. There's Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday--
CLAY CLARK: Go ahead.
CLAY CLARK: Come on.
-Saturday, Sunday-- which day is not on most calendars?
CALEB TAYLOR: Someday.
-So you find yourself saying, someday I'm going to--
CLAY CLARK: Someday.
-Some day I'm going to start over delivering, beating my boss to work. Someday--
-"Someday," by Mariah Carey is a good song. I just want to throw that out there.
-That's nice. We do endorse that but probably not scheduling your action steps on someday. That's not how--
-True, true, truth.
-Well, here's something interesting though, we got a notable quotable here from Dale Carnegie-- OK, author of "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Tell us more about go Dale Carnegie before I jump into this quote. Why should we listen to Dale?
-Dale's a guy who specifically studied how to communicate. And communication, if you were to enroll in different seminars or workshops-- a lot of these executives will pay thousands of dollars to study how to become better communicators. And if you look at all the studies that are out there about people and some of the limiting factors, if you can't communicate, you get kind of stuck.
And so, communication is a huge skill to learn. And Dale started a institute where he, basically, devoted his time to researching how to communicate effectively-- how to be a public speaker, how to talk, how to do sales, how to communicate your ideas effectively, how to influence people. And he ended up becoming one of the bestselling communication experts of our time.
-And this quote that I'm going to be touching on is huge, OK? Because it's talking about actually starting today, by taking action today, and the danger of not taking action today, and choosing someday. It says, "Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."
So this takes it, in my mind, to a whole different level. The danger is not only of inaction, is not only, oh hey, my dreams might be postponed. But it breeds doubt and fear.
-Yeah, well, the problem is, is that success is not logical. So I'll give an example. When you start a business there's all this research that shows 9 out of 10 businesses fail. 9 out of 10 of those that do make it will fail within the next five years. Research shows that the economy may be contracting, that the recession might happen, that the sky is falling.
CALEB TAYLOR: It's scary.
-Yeah, it's a scary world. If you study it between ISIS or ISIL, and between all of the changes, and earthquakes, and Nepal and all the things that could happen, I mean, it's never a good time to start a business. Cause we have droughts in San Diego. We got ISIS going on over here. We got earthquakes. It's a scary world. But if you just get busy, then what you're going to find is you won't have enough time to think about all those things. And you'll ordain your own destiny right now.
-But what's cool is this is not for somebody that's just only looking to start their own business. You might be like me where you say, I'm going to start over delivering. I'm going to start beating my boss to work. I'm going to start spending 30 minutes a day reading or improving a certain skill set. But as long as you've got that on a someday calendar, it's not going to happen. Today's when you have start Thriving. That's what you're saying.
-Absolutely it's just-- and in a marriage too. I know I give constantly marriage tips. Because I've been married 14 years at this point. And I will tell you I have to ignite the passion in my marriage. I have to keep that relationship going. I've got to say, I can't wait till someday when my kids are grown-- we have five kids, you know. I can't wait until they get older to start investing in our relationship. I have to decide right now. I can be the catalyst.
CALEB TAYLOR: OK.
-We're going to dive into three principles here-- three main points. The first one is you decide to thrive at work. The second one is learn how to motivate yourself. And the third one is your time is now. That's what we're going to go through.
The first one, though, let's touch on it. We have to decide to thrive at work. Now, the Huffington Post, in a recent article, said one in three Americans are happy today. Huffington Post said one in three Americans are happy today. How does this apply to us having to decide to thrive at work, right now?
-When you're at work, just understand that two out of the three people next to you-- and if you don't see two people that aren't happy, you might want to get a mirror out and at yourself-- we only have one of three people that are happy. Success is not normal. It's hard to find a boss-- it's hard to find a coworker-- who's pumped up about their job unless they're a manager. Because the best employees, you want to promote them-- put them in positions of leadership.
So if you're down at the bottom rung, or you're somewhere in the middle and you feel stuck, just understand that the decision to be happy, and the decision to thrive, and be ultimately successful at work is not normal and one that two out of three people are not going to make.
-Let me ask you this. I hear you preach this often and live it out. Understanding your why. Why is understanding your why so important, and what does that mean, exactly?
-For me, in particular, I always wanted to hire my dad. When you grow up in a situation where you have financially limited resources, you start to make every decision based upon those financial limitations. And so I decided I want to hire my dad. I don't care what I have to do, I'm going to hire my dad. I'm going to hire my dad. I'm going to build a multi-million-dollar business before I'm 30. It's going to happen. Why?
Why? I guess so that we can live different. We have more choices. We have more possibilities. We have more options. Well, why? Because I don't want my kids to grow up with financial lack. Because I want to be able to go to the store and buy organic avocados. Why? Well, why?
I want to be able to live life on my terms. And I know why. And I knew why. And that's what motivated me to work at night, to stay up all night, to work on those weekends, to carry heavy equipment, to work construction-- all those crazy jobs I did-- because I was motivated by a big, ridiculous, hairy, audacious dream. Without that dream, I would not have been motivated to work.
-So this is kind of the first step, then-- understanding your why.
-You've got to do it.
-That's probably why most Americans aren't happy in their jobs, because they don't know why they're coming in at 9:00.
-I doesn't make any sense.
-They don't have a purpose. They don't have a goal.
-It doesn't make any sense. You say well, if you go to high school, and you get good grades, you get to go to college. And you say why do I want to go to college? You say because there's a sports team that's pretty successful. They're good at basketball or football, and hopefully I can graduate from that school, and people will recognize the brand name on that diploma. And you say well, why?
So that I can get a job. Well, why? So I get a car. Well, why? So I can get a house, a mortgage payment, a car payment. So I can pay off my student loan. Why? So I can retire. Why? So I can be happy.
Boom. So I can be happy. So if you decide right now that you want to be happy all the time, that is an entirely different conversation. And that is why I'm so happy all the time-- because I love what I'm doing all the time. Every day is a holiday. Boom!
-Let me ask you about your time at the pizza factory. This was your time without knowing what your why was.
-I had no idea why at that point. I knew that I needed a job so that I could make some money so that I could save some money so I could go to college to get a bunch of knowledge. So I decided I was going to practice the dark art of jackassery. What I would do is if you came in, and if I knew you, or I wanted to hang out with you-- if you were a girl and I thought you were attractive-- I was like, well? Are you from here? Do you come here very often?
CALEB TAYLOR: You'd try to impress her.
-You want a pizza? I'll get you a pizza right now. I won't even charge you for the pizza. Whoa! Hand-tossed dough, the whole deal. I basically didn't have a focus. So I was not being a good steward of the financial resources of my owner. I was not being a good employee. But I was hitting on some chicks.
-That first principle is we have to decide to thrive at work, but in order to really do that, you've got to understand your why.
-You've got to understand your why.
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